Your Version of Sexy

If waist trainers, plastic surgery, lip fillers, fake lashes, or extensions are your thing — by all means, go for it!

But I’m tired of women feeling like they have to completely transform themselves to fit someone else’s definition of “sexy.”

Does sexy mean a size-two waist, a big booty, and perky breasts? Does it mean spending your paycheck chasing the latest trends, even when you don’t actually like them? Does it mean squeezing into uncomfortable clothes just because they’re “in”?

Sexy isn’t a size. It’s a representation of self.

I’ve watched women of every shape and size try to fit into the same mold — the Kim Kardashian version of sexy. And I get it. When you constantly see one particular body type celebrated, it’s easy to start looking at yourself and thinking, “I wish I had…”

I’ve done it too.

I have an athletic body. Small breasts, muscular legs, a nice butt, very little hips, and a stomach that has its own agenda depending on the day. 😂 I used to look in the mirror and wish for bigger boobs, a smaller waist, or more curves.

And one day I realized something:

In all my “I wishes,” I was completely missing the woman standing right in front of me.

Instead of looking in the mirror and saying, “DAMN GIRL, YOU’RE SEXY,” I was picking apart everything I thought was missing.

That had to change.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t take care of ourselves, evolve, or make changes that make us feel good. I’m saying don’t lose yourself trying to become someone else’s version of beautiful.

Your body doesn’t have to look like hers to be sexy.

Your curves don’t have to look like hers.

Your waist doesn’t have to look like hers.

Your style doesn’t have to look like hers.

You just have to learn to see YOU.

Because sexy isn’t something you have to earn, buy, inject, squeeze into, or become.

It’s already there.

You just have to embrace it. 💜

xo Shahnel